5 tips to improve your relationship this Valentine’s day.

by rodney on February 10, 2013

Valentine’s Day is fast approaching.

Originally a day to celebrate Saint Valentine, it is a day that celebrates love and relationships. In more recent times it has been criticised for its mass commercialism as retail outlets earn millions from the sales of cards, presents and flowers.

Either way, I believe that it is an ideal opportunity to reflect on your relationship and work on improving it. All too often, couples who have been in long term relationships can begin to take their partners and their relationships for granted. Using Valentine’s Day to boost gratitude in relationships will go a long way to ensuring their longevity.

Despite what commercial society may say, you don’t have to have to spend money to do this. Here are 5 simple tips to help you improve your relationship that you do this Valentine’s Day.

  1. Tell your partner that you love them.

This may sound “too easy” and you may even think to yourself “I do already” but tell them like you mean it. This is more than the quick “love you” as you walk out the door. Tell your partner why you love them and what it means to you to have them in your life. Sit down with your partner and them your full attention. Look them in the eye and let the emotions flow. If you have trouble being so open and vulnerable, write it down in a note to your partner, something they can keep and reread again and again.


  1. 2.       Go the extra mile.

When we are in love with someone, we want to show them by giving all of ourselves to them. The reality is we can’t give 100%, 100% of the time. This leads to people not doing as much as they can and creates rifts in relationships. Going that little bit extra, whether you do something for your partner that you don’t often do or even allowing them to maybe do a little bit less, will show your partner that they are not taken for granted. The great thing is, you only need to give a little bit extra, you don’t even have to give 100%.


  1. 3.       Find reasons to “fall in love” again.

Ok, so this one is just for you, but, if done right (and often) will have enormous impact on your relationship. As we grow as people and couples, the reasons why we fall in love with someone often get lost. We must actually let those reasons grow with us. On a regular basis, find more reasons why you love your partner. Fall in love with the changes they’ve made and the person they are becoming. What will happen is you’ll be looking at your partner with a different perspective.


  1. 4.       Smile.

This one is so simple yet I’m amazed by the amount of people who don’t do it! When you see your partner, smile. Smile like they have just lit up your life. When you smile at someone, it tells them that you love them and seeing them makes you happy. It doesn’t cost anything to do and requires such a little effort for a huge reward.


  1. Give your partner cuddles.

Cuddles are, in my opinion, the most loving things you can give anyone. When you give someone a cuddle, they feel loved, they feel safe and they feel wanted. This is why when children are scared or sad; a cuddle from Mum is the only thing that will make them feel better. Wrap your arms around your partner and don’t let go.


While these tips will help to improve your relationship by reminding yourself and your partner that how much you love each other, they will not fix broken relationships. If you have serious problems in your relationship, you may need ongoing couples counselling.


Try these quick and simple tips this Valentine’s Day. The best part is these are things you can do for your partner all year round.

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