How Counsellors have helped me

by rodney on May 8, 2016

what is counsellingI would have been about 11 when I saw my first counsellor. I was in year 5 and I was going through a particular difficult period in my life. I was anxious, I lacked self-confidence and I didn’t have a lot of friends. At home I lacked a lot of control over my life and I was frightened. As a result, I started acting out. That’s when the school sent me to the school counsellor.

That would be the start of a life long journey for me that would eventually lead to me finding my passion and purpose in life. Over the years I’ve seen counsellors to help me get through different times in my life and I’m scared to think of where I might be without the help and support of these counsellors.

Some counsellors I’ve had relationships for years while some I saw only briefly, but regardless, my life has been profoundly impacted by them.

If you’re reading this because you’re unsure whether seeing a counsellor would benefit you, I want you to know that counselling has changed my life. I’m not trying to convince, I just want to share with you my experience.

Here’s 5 ways Counselling has helped me

A platform to be heard

We all need to feel important and significant. It’s vital for our psychological well-being. The best and easiest way to do that is to be heard and understood. Unfortunately, too often we’re not. Counselling is a platform to be heard and understood. You can say what you want and feel how you feel without being judged.  Allowing someone to talk and vent is called giving them psychological air and in many cases, it can be life-saving.

Make sense

Often, emotions, relationship dynamics and issues are complex. Adults often times have difficulty understanding what’s going on for them let alone kids. Counselling allowed me to make sense out of what was happening to me. Once you understand what’s going on, it’s easier to resolve issues.

Different perspective

How often have you been stuck in situations because you couldn’t see a solution. When this happens, we believe that there is no solution because we have tried everything. This is really dangerous because we then lose hope which leads people to take drastic and dangerous action. Often, we haven’t tried everything, we’ve only tried what we could see in our limited world view.  Counselling gave me a different perspective of my issues and of life in general which has helped me to find answers to the biggest problems in my life.

Emotional Intelligence

Blokes and emotions don’t usually go together.  Men can tend to think of emotions as girly and unmasculine and can find themselves succumbing to anger too easily. Counselling taught me about my emotions and I have an emotional intelligence a lot guys never have. Having this emotional intelligence has helped me to gain a control and mastery of my life because I understand that emotions guide us in life.

Helped me to reconnect

The issues I had as a child that led me seeing a counsellor all stemmed from my relationship with my Dad. Over the years I grew estranged from my Dad and I became angrier as I got older. I spoke to many counsellors over the years and I eventually got to stage where I no longer held any anger. At 29, I was able to reconnect with him which taught me so much about life. A couple of years later, he died. Without counselling, this wouldn’t have been possible and I would have missed out on so much.

This is just my experience. Your experience will be different.  Counselling may save your life or it might not make a difference. What I do know is that you get out of it what you put into it. The only way to know if Counselling will be right for you, pick up the phone and talk to a counsellor.

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